Sunday, May 29, 2011

Asher's Thoughtfulness

Last Sunday was my birthday. Daddy took Asher to the store so he could choose a gift and card for me. Adam says that when they got to the store he asked Asher what they should get me. Asher told Daddy that I like angels. Which Asher is correct, I collect Willow Tree Angels. Adam took Asher to the Willow Tree section and Asher picked out an angel for me.

 Asher later told me that the boy is him and the dog is Jake (our dog) and they are playing. I was amazed at how thoughtful Asher was. He first remembered that I liked Angels and then choose an Angel that had meaning. 
After they picked out the gift, Adam took Asher to the card section. This is the card Asher choose for me.

Some of you might know--I HATE Sponge Bob. But over the years it has become a joke between Asher and I. Even when Asher was just three years old he would purposely point Sponge Bob out for me to respond, "Yucky, Sponge Bob, gross." We would both laugh hysterically. As you can tell this joke has continued on. On my birthday I opened my card and there was Sponge Bob. Worse yet you open it up and it SINGS!!! Asher had the biggest smile on his face. Even though I HATE Sponge Bob--I looove the card!!!! 
I was impressed with his thoughtfulness this birthday. He actually not only remembered what I liked but he was smart enough to continue on with a long standing joke. I am impressed with my five year old! :) (Just to note: Adam ensured me that he did not help Asher choose the card or angel at all--it was all Asher's idea)   

Saturday, May 28, 2011

Tuesday's Storm--Prayers for Hamil Family

Over the last few days after the storm I had an increase in visits to this site. It just now dawned on me that some of you may have been checking up on us to see how we were. As I have already responded--we were fine. We were safe. But over the last few days I have realized how close those tornadoes were to us--and how it could have been us who have lost everything.
I think of the Hamil family who have lost EVERYTHING!!! By everything I mean the lives of their two little boys. One of the boys was ripped out of his mother's arms by the storm and they were unable to find his body until a few days after. I broke into tears as I heard their story. I have two boys in similar age. How would I have felt if one of my sons were torn out of my arms and I could do nothing but hear his screams?
I pray for this family. They have much healing to do--physically and emotionally. Though they will never be fully healed again. They have a five year old daughter who was still in the hospital last time I heard. The mother (who is pregnant with a girl) in also in the hospital.  Their house was destroyed. Worse of all they lost two sons that day.
I am tired of talking. I am tired of praying. I feel like I need to do something. But in the midst of my own life it is hard to turn the talking into walking. Adam and I will have a discussion today on what we can do to help either the Hamil family or other victims of the storm. May not be much--but I am just tired of talking. I was moved the other day when I saw one of my Facebook friends who made cookies for the victims of Piedmont. What an amazing gesture. I guess it doesn't have to be much--just something.
There is a Facebook page titled Shower of Hope Oklahoma--Hamil Family. If you like that page there is information on how you can donate either items or money to this family. Not only do they have to try to rebuild everything they need to prepare for a new baby.
My prayers will be with this family and other families who are coping with the damage the recent storms have brought to their lives. I am not sure why we were spared--but I know it could have been us.
Hamil Family

The link below is a link for donating to the Hamil Family online. Their is also an address to a bank if one wishes not to donate online.

Love and blessings,

Thursday, May 26, 2011

Crochet Patterns

As many of you know I am a beginning crocheter. It is becoming a fun hobby that I really enjoy. I am currently working on two baby projects. Because I am OVERLY excited about them I thought I would share the patterns with you, even though I have not completed the projects.

I have been working on a crochet blanket for Bethany. It is pastel rainbow colored alternated with purple. So far it is turning out wonderfully. It called for cotton yarn but I used Caron Simply Soft. I can't wait to lay Bethany on the soft blanket. Here is the link to the pattern--it is a perfect pattern for beginning crocheters or for an advanced crocheter who wants a mindless project:

Another pattern I am working on is a cute little lovey bunny blanket. This pattern, though not complicated, included some new techniques I needed help learning. So, I started this project tonight at my crochet group. I am hoping to finish most of it by next week so I can bring it back to group and finish the details next class. I have a lot of friends who are having babies. If this turns out well I am hoping to be able to make a few of these for my friend's babies. Again I used a different type of yarn with two strands together. Instead I used Lion Brand Baby's First yarn and only one strand. I think the yarn will make it very soft and cuddly. 
Here is the link: (you may need a free account to access the full pattern).

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After I finish the projects I will for sure be posting pictures. 
Thanks for indulging in my excitement. I think my need to crochet baby items is due to nesting.

The Boys' Birthday Randomness

I had some pictures from the boys' birthdays I thought would be fun to share.
Presents Grammy Denise and Papa Rob sent the boys.  

Asher loooves children's praise music. 

Blanket Grammy Denise made Caleb for his new bed. Grammy made us lots of nice bedding for both of the boys new beds.

Every time that week I tried to take a picture, Caleb had to show off a body part. Here he is trying to open his present and show us his foot.

We made a May birthday cake for all three of our birthdays. Our friends Illana and Melissa enjoyed the cake with us.
Yummy cake!!!!
Thomas tracks and trains Asher bought with his birthday money from Great Gram at a MOPS garage sale. 
The children and the dog enjoying the track. Thanks Tony for putting the tracks together for the boys!!!!
After a long day of birthday fun, Caleb passed out among the Thomas bean bag and train tracks we got at a MOPS garage sale. And just to note: Grammy Denise made the Thomas pillow case his legs are on.
Hope you enjoyed!!!

Wednesday, May 25, 2011


This week has been pretty busy--maybe not so much busy as me being pretty tired.
Daddy came home Saturday. The kids were ecstatic to see their Dad.
My birthday was Sunday. It was calm and uneventful and involved naps for me. Just the way I like my birthdays. We did celebrate with cake and dinner later that evening.
The last two days I have been pretty tired and worn down (hence lack of posts). Probably my body is just recouping from being on "single" duty for the last two weeks. Also I am sure being pregnant has something to do with the tiredness. Granted there are pregnant women who are on "single" duty for way more than two weeks and I have much appreciation and respect for those women.
Yesterday we had major storms in Oklahoma. The storm passed right over Tinker but we were in shelter. Though there was debris all over Tinker, from what I could tell most major property was unharmed. The kids were actually at a friend's house. They went to the hospital just down the street and stayed in the basement conference rooms at the hospital. They probably were safer and more comfortable than Adam, I, and Jake (the dog) were in our safe room in the garage.
Today we have some errands to run and a lunch date with Daddy. Adam had his PT test today and he passed. We are celebrating with Qdoba: Adam's and Asher's favorite restaurant.
I am feeling a bit better today. The kids spent the night at our friend's house so I was able to sleep in until 9:00. So funny how when I was without kids I would have considered waking up at 9:00 early--now that I am a parent it totally counts as sleeping in.
I will try to put up another post with pictures tonight. I just thought I should do a quick update so you know we are still alive and well.

Friday, May 20, 2011

24 weeks!!!

I am 24 weeks today!!! YAY!!! This marks a major milestone for me. As most of you know I did not make it past 24 weeks with the twins. Every week after this will get more exciting as Bethany's arrival is not too far off.

Me at 24 weeks!!! YAY!!!!

Bethany a few days before 24 weeks. Sorry for the poor picture. Our scanner/printer is not working.

I praise God for going this far. I know that he is holding both of us in His hands and I need not fear anything. I will be able to face whatever happens good or bad. Still I am believing that Bethany will be born happy and healthy at full term!!! 

"Surely God is my salvation; I will trust and not be afraid. The LORD, the LORD, is my strength and my song; he has become my salvation." Isaiah 12:2

It's Found!!!

Before Christmas I lost my wedding band. You can not imagine the guilt I felt. I thought I had placed it in its normal spot in my room. I looked everywhere and could not find the ring. After a few months of it missing I had determined that somehow I forever lost my ring inside my own house. I felt like the worse wife ever.
Well the other day I was at my friend's house discussing my ring and how I would like a new band for my anniversary. She then said, "Oh I have your ring." I looked at her stunned. 
Apparently, before Christmas when they were visiting, her daughter wondered in my room and took my ring. I guess she thought it was pretty. She wore the ring home. Her mother saw her wearing the ring and put it up in the bathroom cabinet. Apparently she forgot she even had the ring until I mentioned it the other day. 
No matter what happened I am just very happy to be reunited with my wedding band. I no longer feel very guilty. Yet, I have learned that when we have little visitors over I need to keep my room door SHUT!
 Told you my life was messy! :) 
Praise God for keeping my band safe and helping me to find it! :) 

Thursday, May 19, 2011

Asher aka Kindergarten Boy!

I can't believe it. Asher is officially done with PreK. Where did the time go?
Yesterday was the last day of school. Asher's class had an end of the year party complete with bouncers. 
Asher loooved the bouncers. The bouncer attendants were worried about Asher climbing up the bouncers due to his size. They didn't know Asher is bigger than he looks. After one time through the attendants realized they had nothing to worry about! 
We did have one little incident. As Asher was going through one of the obstacle course bouncers (a little slowly) a friend came behind him and said, "Hurry up little Asher." Asher didn't seem to notice his friend's comment at the time. After he got off the bouncer we went to another one. There he started to cry. I asked what was wrong. He said, "My friend called me little Asher. I am not little. I am a big Asher. Right Mom?" It broke my heart. I said, "Of course Asher. You are a big boy." He smiled and continued on his way, as happy as ever.
Ms. King and Ms. Melton
After the bouncers we went to his classroom party. Asher enjoyed juice, chips, and a whole bunch of goodies. It was a very fun day. 
Now I have a Kindergartner. Ish. :)

Wednesday, May 18, 2011

Quick Update

I know it has been a few days since I have posted. I have a post planned but life over the last few days have been very busy. I plan on for sure getting a post up with pictures tomorrow morning!
Right now both kids are wide awake and as soon as they go to bed I will be going to bed too.
Thanks for your faithful following,

Sunday, May 15, 2011

Daddy's Kisses

I am a sap for the Lifetime Show Coming Home. Though we have not had been through long-term deployments (so far) as a military wife I relate well to the families presented on the show. Being pregnant and emotional, I end up crying all the way through the show. Well anyway the other day on the show they presented a mom whose husband was deployed. The way her daughters counted the days till he came home was by counting Hershey's Chocolate Kisses. The Mom set aside the same amount of kisses as were days until Dad came home. Every night before the kids went to bed Mom would let the kids have on chocolate kiss and they would count the remaining kisses. I love this idea for a few reasons. 1) It is simple. I need simple. 2) It is a great ritual for including Dad in their every day lives. 3) It is a wonderful, concrete, and hands-on way for the children to know how many days are left till his arrival home. 4) Daddy can still give them a night time "kiss" even from many miles away.
So needless to say we are doing this activity this week. Every morning Asher asks, "Are we picking up Daddy today?" I thought this might curve some of that. I think it will also give Asher more control in understanding how many days until Daddy comes home. I also thought that this would be a good time to pray for Dad. 
7 night-time kisses set aside for each boy in their own baggie.
 We started the activity last night. I thought it might be a bit difficult with Caleb. I didn't know if he would understand that he couldn't eat all of the candy right away. No worries. He followed brother's lead and just took one piece of candy and put the rest of his candy in the bag. This morning Asher DID NOT ask if Dad were coming home today. He did however mention that there were six more pieces of candy till Dad got home. Yay!!! It works!!! 
Who knew Daddy's kisses were so sweet?
We are very blessed that Daddy is only on a short trip. Even though any time away from Daddy is hard on the boys, these short stints are good practice for when he will be gone longer. Plus I will for sure be using the "Daddy's Kisses" activity on any future trips Adam will be making for work. 
Praise goodness for the Coming Home show. Even if it does make me bawl like a baby.

(As a quick aside: Even short TDY's give me much appreciation for the Dad's and Mom's who have missed far too many night time kisses with their children because they were serving our country. God bless them all.)

The Military Wife (A Poem by Unkown Author)

This was circulating Facebook the other day. I think it is very blog worthy.  It did however make me cry. Adam will tell you that it does not take much to make me cry. Still definitely worth the read.

The Military Wife

When the good Lord was creating military spouses, He was into His sixth day of overtime.

An Angel appeared and said, "You're having a lot of trouble on this one. What's wrong with the standard model?"

The Lord replied, "Have you ever seen the regulations? It has to be completely independent, but must be sponsored to get on base, have the qualities of both mother and father during deployments; Be a perfect hostess to four or 40 at a moments notice, handle emergencies without military orders, cope with the flu and move around the world, have a kiss that cures anything from a child's torn valentine to a soldier's weary day, have the patience of a saint when waiting for the unit to return stateside, and have six pairs of soft hands."

The Angel shook her head slowly and said, "Six pair of hands? No way!"

And the Lord answered, "Don't worry. We'll make other military spouses to help. Besides, it's not the hands that are causing the problem - it's the heart. It must swell with pride, sustain the ache of separation, beat soundly when it's too tired to do so, be large enough to say 'I understand' when it doesn't, and say 'I love you,' regardless."

"Lord," said the Angel, touching his sleeve gently, "go to bed. You can finish that tomorrow."

"I can't," said the Lord. "I'm too close to creating something unique. Already I have one who can heal itself when sick, feed unexpected guests who are stuck far away from home during the holidays, and wave goodbye to its spouse from a pier or runway and understand it's important to the country that the spouse leave."

The Angel circled the model of the military spouse very slowly. "It's too soft," she sighed.

"But tough," the Lord said excitedly. "You cannot imagine what this being can do or endure!"

"Can it think?" the Angel asked.

"Can it think? It can convert 1400 to 2 p.m.!" the Lord said.

Finally, the Angel bent over and ran her finger across the cheek. "There's a leak," she pronounced. "I told you that you were trying to put too much into this model."

"It's not a leak," said the Lord. "It's a tear."

"What's it for?" asked the Angel.

"It's for joy, sadness, pain, loneliness and pride," the Lord said.

"You're a genius," said the Angel.

The Lord looked somber and said, "I didn't put it there."

~Author Unknown

Saturday, May 14, 2011

Caleb is the Big 2!!!!

Happy 2nd Birthday Caleb!!!!!

In honor of Caleb's birthday we had cinnamon rolls for breakfast. He enjoyed them immensely.

Caleb is saying, "head" in this picture. Lately when I take a picture he points to a body part and names it instead of saying, "cheese."
Because Caleb loves trucks I thought it would be fun to go to the Touch-A-Truck fundraiser event they had at UCO today for his birthday. There were over 65 trucks/vehicles there of all shapes and sizes. They even had a helicopter the kids could sit in.
Caleb checking out a police car.
Mylie and Caleb looking at the fire truck. (Mylie, Tony, and her baby Lucy us from Tulsa for part of the weekend)
Asher gearing up in a "real" fireman's suit.
Lucy and Tony checking out the fire truck.

This evening I gave Caleb a few more birthday gifts. We celebrated both Asher and Caleb's birthday last Friday before Dad left. I still didn't want Caleb's day to go unnoticed, so I saved a few small gifts for him to open today. 
 Caleb seemed to enjoy his day. Periodically he would look at me and say, "two, two." 
Asher was excited for Caleb and told all who would listen that his brother was, "a real two today." Asher didn't even get jealous when it was time for Caleb to open his gifts.
What a special day Caleb's 2nd birthday was.

Wednesday, May 11, 2011

Crazy Caleb

So for awhile now Caleb has been crawling out of his crib. It first started before Christmas but he only did it once or twice--so we decided to wait before we put him in a toddler bed. Well about a month ago it became an every day event. We realized that it was time for the "big boy" bed.
Bedtime is still challenging. The second we put him in his bed he runs out of the room crying. Even after our consistent bed time routine. We then shut the door and let him cry. But no fear, he only cries for about five minuets and then fall asleep.
But where does he fall asleep? Is it in his new and very awesome toddler bed? NO. It is always in Asher's bed. Sometimes Caleb will even bring his blanket and pillow over to Asher's bed. We put Asher to bed after Caleb so lately Asher has been sleeping in Caleb's bed. I have been too afraid that I will wake Caleb if I move him since he is such a light sleeper. In a few weeks we are going to put Asher in a twin bed and throw away his toddler bed (since it is falling apart). We will see what happens then.
Caleb's untouched bed.

Asher's bed. Notice the Thomas.
I think it is because Caleb has an attachment to Asher. He knows that the bed is Bubba's and you can even hear him in the room before he goes to sleep saying, "Bubba, Bubba." What a fun story to tell them later. 

Tuesday, May 10, 2011

Chunky Monkey is FIVE!!!!!

On the morning of his birthday Asher asked, "Am I five now?" I answered in disbelief, "Yes, Asher you are five." He gave a gigantic smile then giggled and said, "Yay!!!!" All day any person that encountered us would learn that Asher was indeed five.
As I have said repeatedly over the last few days--I CANNOT believe he is five. Five years did not come easily to us. Still we made it in one piece and he is doing better than ANYONE could imagine. It is God who gets the glory for this amazing miracle that is Asher.
OK so I am done with the gushing. Now onto the details of this historic day.
The actual day of the birthday was really not all that exciting. Since Daddy was not going to be in town for either of the boys birthdays we mainly celebrated on Friday. We had a birthday dinner at Qdoba and then continued the celebration with cake, presents, and balloons at home. Asher was very adamant about the balloons. He wanted balloons in every room of the house. I told him I would take him and his brother to Dollar Tree where they could each choose one balloon. Asher was content with that conclusion. That night Asher was very excited to receive a matching Cars scooter and helmet for his main birthday gift. The day ended with Asher saying, "This was the best day ever."
Asher and his new scooter. He really is more excited than he looks.
 Even though we celebrated on Friday I still wanted to do something to honor the day. We woke up in the morning and went to donuts. We then went to Toys R Us where he was able to choose one toy (he had a gift card). He was elated when he found a very nifty Thomas the Tank Engine track set within his budget (it was on clearance). 
Playing with his new train. It actually has tracks too.
That afternoon we brought cookies to school in honor of his birthday. He was VERY excited that his class was going to sing Happy Birthday to him. He wanted all the kids to hide under their desks and surprise him, but I told him I didn't think that was going to happen.
After school we had an elaborate meal of chicken nuggets and rice with veggies (one of his favorite dinners). Once they had both cleared their plates, Asher was given one more birthday gift: a Thomas blanket.

Snuggled up with the new blanket.
We will have a birthday party with friends on the first or second weekend in June for both Asher and Caleb. We are planning a "splash" party. Asher is already making detailed plans for the party. It should be the "event" of the year. Alright, probably not---but Asher and Caleb will have a good time.
Even though yesterday was a simple day it was nice. Asher seemed content throughout the whole day. I think he is just excited to finally be five.
Tonight he told his friend he was five. She said, "No your not." He ran to me and said, "Mom, am I five?" I reassured him he really was five. He smiled ran back to his friend and said, "I am too five." I heard her say, "Oh." How cute.
Asher loves his train so much that he was starting to go to sleep with the toy. 
This concludes the events of our exciting day. There will be more details to come in June after the grand splash party that we are planning.
I am sorry on posting so late tonight. Today was a very busy day. Yet I am not complaining. Time seems to go by so slow when Adam is gone, so I enjoy days that speed by with busyness.


Monday, May 9, 2011

Happy Birthday to ^Jacob-David^ and Asher

It is hard to believe that five years ago today I was in a hospital bed worried sick about my babies. At this time right now (4:49pm) I hadn't even seen them except for a few seconds when they were swept out of my belly and quickly hooked onto vents. Now look--Asher is happy and healthy. God is amazing and a great miracle maker.
I am planning on either tonight or tomorrow posting pictures of the birthday boy with details of the day. Right now I am going to tribute this post to my Jacob-David Paul Misner who only spent 7 weeks with us on earth. 

Happy Birthday to my beautiful baby. We miss you and love you. Today Asher and I talked about you (as we have before). I reminded him that God thought he would like a playmate in my belly and he gave him you. Asher giggled with excitement and said, "Yeah, we hugged and kissed and wrestled in your belly." I told him that I bet you  both did--it sure felt like it. Asher and I sang Happy Birthday for you this morning and tonight we will light your memorial candle. Though you are in  heaven you are also in our hearts. I hope you have a blessed birthday my precious miracle. I love you with all my heart.
Our Jacob-David

A Birthday In Heaven

I heard you crying yesterday
And felt your heart-sent love
So I’m sending you this message
Now, from Heaven up above.

You’re wondering if I’ll celebrate
My birthday (way up here)
I know you’re missing me today
I feel your essence near.

God planned a special day for me
He told me with a wink
He’d ordered me a special cake
(It’s Angel food, I think)

I’m getting lots of hugs from God
He’s really good at that
And every time that I walk by
He gives my head a pat

Balloons will fill the streets for me
They float up through the clouds
And we have lots of clowns up here
That make us laugh out loud

There is a birthday carousel
Jeweled horses ride the wind
With music playing oh so sweet…
The magic never ends

I’ve made so many friends, you see
We laugh and play and sing
We ride our bikes and play jump rope
And sleep in Angel’s wings
We’ll have our cake and ice cream
And open gifts, surprise!
But we don’t blow out our candles here
Instead, they light the skies

© Kris Smith  

A Caringbridge Follower posted this wonderful poem on the Caringbridge page. 


Sunday, May 8, 2011

Mother's Day!!!!

Today for Mother's Day I had Asher and Caleb take me out to McDonald's for breakfast. Really I wanted to go because mothers who brought their children with could get a free breakfast. As many of you know, I am cheap. If I can get anything free I will be there with bells on! Yet that got me thinking...what about the Moms who couldn't bring their children? I have an acute awareness of how blessed I am. I do not take for granted the fact that I am privileged to be able to have Mother's Day breakfast with my children and most importantly that it is a gift to raise them. I pray for the mothers who for whatever reason do not have their children with them tonight. May God bless you with peace and a gentle Mother's Day. 

Asher and Caleb at McDonald's for our Mother's Day Breakfast.

Daddy could not come because he is out of town for work.
Below are two poems that I really enjoy. One is about the "blessings" of being a mom and the other is dedicated to the Moms  whose children are in heaven. 
Before I was a Mom
Before I was a Mom -
I slept as late as I wanted and never worried about how late I got into bed. I brushed my hair and my teeth everyday.
Before I was a Mom -
I cleaned my house each day. I never tripped over toys or forgot words to a lullaby. I didn't worry whether or not my plants were poisonous. I never thought about immunizations.
Before I was a Mom -
I had never been puked on - Pooped on - Spit on - Chewed on, or Peed on. I had complete control of my mind and My thoughts. I slept all night.
Before I was a Mom -
I never held down a screaming child so that doctors could do tests...or give shots. I never looked into teary eyes and cried. I never got gloriously happy over a simple grin. I never sat up late hours at night watching a baby sleep.
Before I was a Mom -
I never held a sleeping baby just because I didn't want to put it down. I never felt my heart break into a million pieces when I couldn't stop the hurt. I never knew that something so small could affect my life
so much. I never knew that I could love someone so much. I never knew I would love being a Mom.
Before I was a Mom -
I didn't know the feeling of having my heart outside my body. I didn't know how special it could feel to feed a hungry baby. I didn't know that bond between a mother and her child. I didn't know that something so small could make me feel so important.
Before I was a Mom -
I had never gotten up in the middle of the night every 10 minutes to make sure all was okay. I had never known The warmth, The joy, The love, The heartache, The wonderment or the satisfaction of being a Mom. I didn't know I was capable of feeling so much before I was a Mom.

Dear Mr. Hallmark,

I am writing to you from heaven,
and though it must appear
A rather strange idea,
I see everything from here.

I just popped in to visit,
your stores to find a card
a card of love for my mother,
as this day for her is hard.

There must be some mistake I thought,
I saw every card you could imagine
except I could not find a card,
from a child who lives in heaven.

She is still a mother too,
no matter where I reside
I had to leave, she understands,
but oh the tears she's cried.

I thought that if I wrote you,
that you would come to know
that though I live in heaven now,
I still love my mother so.

She talks with me and dreams with me;
we still share laughter too,
Memories are our way of speaking now, would you see what you could do?

My mother carries me in her heart,
her tears she hides from sight.
She writes poems to honor me,
sometimes far into the night.

She plants flowers in my garden,
there my living memory dwells
She writes to other grieving parents,
trying to ease their pain as well.

So you see Mr. Hallmark,
though I no longer live on earth
I must find a way to remind her
of her wondrous worth.

She needs to be honored,
and remembered too
just as the children of earth will do.

Thank you Mr. Hallmark,
I know you'll do your best
I have done all I can do;
to you I'll leave the rest.

Find a way to tell her,
how much she means to me
until I can do it for myself,
when she joins me in eternity.